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Specialises in

• Counselling

• Psychotherapy

• Short Term Psychodynamic Therapy

Offers

• Face-to-face consultations
• Video and telephone consultations

About me

How I Work

People come to therapy for a wide range of reasons, whether in response to a specific life event, particular difficulty or a longer-standing issue. You might be so used to coping and keeping things in that you even wonder if the things that are bothering you are bad enough to come to therapy. Perhaps the people around you think your life looks good on the outside, but you know inside you can feel panicked, lost and exhausted? Maybe you find you often end up overthinking situations from your day or having strong reactions that don't always make sense to you?

If this feels familiar, therapy might be helpful.

Starting therapy, whether for the first time or if you are returning to it, can raise questions about what kind of therapy might be helpful and how to find the right therapist. I believe therapy is above all about finding the right fit � a therapist you feel you can learn to trust (even if it takes time) and whose approach makes sense to you.

I work psychodynamically. This approach focuses on helping you become more aware of underlying patterns in your feelings, thoughts, and ways of relating, many of which operate outside conscious awareness. By understanding these patterns, people often find they are able to relate to themselves and others with more ease and less anxiety. Above all, it's a particular way of listening � of me listening to you � but as the work progresses, helping you learn to listen to yourself in a particular way too, so that your thoughts and feelings become less overwhelming and make more sense.

The therapeutic relationship

Therapy provides a confidential space to speak openly about aspects of your experience that may not feel possible to share with anyone else in your life. Talking with a therapist is different from talking with friends or family; the focus is on understanding your inner world rather than offering advice or solutions. Many people find it's really helpful to talk to someone outside of their daily life who isn't caught up in the family or friend-group dynamics, and who won't be burdened by listening, and won't shift the focus onto their own problems.

A central feature of my work is that it is relational. Many of the difficulties people bring to therapy are connected to how they relate to others. Over time, similar patterns may emerge within the therapeutic relationship itself. When this happens, it allows us to understand these patterns in a direct and contained way in this unique setting. It can ultimately open up new ways of relating that you can take with you to your other relationships. This process does tend to take time which is why this type of therapy is not something that can be done in a few weeks.

What I can help with

I know people don't fit into neat categories but it feels helpful to share there are some areas I have specific experience of working with and have taken an interest in learning more about. These include:

- Anxiety, including social anxiety
- Relationship difficulties, dating, and loneliness
- Attachment issues, complex family dynamics, and childhood relational trauma
- Low self-esteem (often manifests in feeling you are �not good enough�, or having issues with confidence at work or in social situations)
- Neurodivergence, particularly late diagnosis of ADHD/autism in adulthood (and the many feelings this can bring up)
- Loss and bereavement
- Depression, sadness, and suicidal thoughts
- Self-harm
- Boarding school history (if you went to boarding school, it may have impacted you in various ways even if you have not yet considered the link between boarding school and your difficulties now as an adult)
- Life transitions and specific life stages (e.g. the time before your 30th or 40th birthday and the specific pressures and challenges that are around)

I always offer an initial, free 15-minute phone call to talk through the practicalities and to determine whether I may be the right therapist to help with your current situation.

Areas of interest

Anxiety; Depression; Bereavement; Attachment issues; Social Anxiety; Neurodivergence; Stress; Word Related Issues; Burnout; Relationship Issues; Cultural Issues; Identity; Sexual identity

Specialist interests and expertise in the following physical conditions

• Psychophysiological disorders