Finder

Specialises in

• Counselling

Offers

• Face-to-face consultations
• Video and telephone consultations

About me

I am a counsellor with over 20 years' experience, working with victims of domestic violence and abuse, bereavement, parents who have suffered a neo natal death, stillbirth, termination of pregnancy and IVF, depression and anxiety, eating disorders, marital and relationship problems, childhood abuse and trauma.

I have worked as an NHS counsellor for over 10 years offering time-limited counselling for a wide range of problems. I also offer counselling for couples. As a counsellor I am down to earth and engaging and often make use of humour to challenge any unhelpful patterns of behaviour and thinking.

I understand how it feels to have had the cards stacked against you throughout your life; how it feels to have a whole set of unhealthy coping mechanisms that need to be firmly challenged before they can change; how it can feel that what people see on the outside is not who you feel yourself to be on the inside.

My aim as a counsellor is to help you to be 'who' you are rather than 'how' you are. 'How' you are can be challenged and changed; 'who' you are is the real you, your sense of humour, your intelligence, your interests, etc.

I believe that it is not enough for counselling to work on changing your thought patterns, but that it must also help you to find out why you have them in the first place. Counselling is not about providing you with the answers, it's about helping you to ask the right questions, to challenge self-imposed obligations, and turn negatives into positives. Counselling is not about helping you to eliminate your emotions, it's about helping you to manage them. Showing emotion in the right way at the right time is a sign of strength and not, as is often assumed, a sign of weakness.