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Specialises in

• Cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT)

• Mindfulness based CBT

• Trauma focused CBT

Offers

• Face-to-face consultations
• Video and telephone consultations

About me

You might be someone who spends a lot of time looking after other people and anticipating their needs, keeping things running and being the dependable one. Saying yes to everyone is easy but saying yes to yourself is not. You can be understanding and compassionate to others easily but when it comes to yourself, that's a different story. You hold yourself to standards you'd never put on anyone else. The evening comes and you're exhausted but it's too hard to rest, rest quickly turns to guilt and doing something for yourself just feels selfish. It's exhausting and slowly resentment builds.

Many women I work with describe feeling overwhelmed without always knowing exactly why. They're doing a lot, thinking a lot, and holding a lot, yet struggling to feel settled or at ease. It can be hard to identify what you need, let alone ask for it and the fear of upsetting others with your own needs feels too much so you keep others happy and you keep yourself small.

I work with women who experience high levels of self-criticism, people-pleasing, and a persistent sense of pressure to do more or be better. Often this develops over time and becomes the main way you motivate yourself, even when it's leaving you exhausted, tense, or disconnected from what actually matters to you.

How Can Therapy Help and What Can Change:

In therapy, we would begin by gently exploring how you relate to yourself, particularly the inner voice that pushes, judges, or never seems satisfied. We would look at patterns that keep repeating in your thoughts, emotions, and relationships, and build an understanding of where these patterns come from. From there, we can start to create space for more compassion, flexibility, and choice in how you respond to yourself and your life.

Over time, many clients begin to feel kinder towards themselves. They notice they're more able to express emotions, name their needs, and take up space in relationships. This doesn't happen overnight, and there's no pressure to change quickly. Small shifts can make a meaningful difference.

My work is shaped by my own experience of growing up pleasing others and pushing down my own needs. I know how deeply human the desire for emotional connection is and how painful it can be to feel dismissed or unseen. This is why emotional safety is at the heart of how I work. I want therapy to feel like a place where you can soften, rather than brace yourself.

Because of this, I'm especially attentive to self-criticism and the quiet ways people learn to put themselves last. My aim is to offer a space where you don't have to perform, explain yourself perfectly, or earn care. A place where you can be met with warmth, honesty, and respect.

What Therapy I Offer:

I am an integrative psychotherapist, which means I adapt the way I work to suit you rather than following a fixed approach. I draw from Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT), Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), Compassion Focused Therapy, and Mindfulness-Based approaches. My work often includes developing a kinder relationship with yourself, learning to step back from harsh inner criticism, and reconnecting with your values so your energy goes towards what is meaningful rather than endlessly draining.

I place a strong value on the therapeutic relationship. I work collaboratively and at your pace, supporting you to feel more grounded, clearer, and better able to move forward in a way that feels sustainable rather than driven by pressure.

Practical Information:

I'm currently offering online therapy via video sessions, allowing you to access therapy from wherever feels most manageable for you.

How You Can Book a Session:

You can book a free 15minute introductory call to ask any questions and to see if we're the right fit for each other.

You can also book a first session via my website www.lisaumetherapy.com which has up to date availability.

Areas of interest

I specialise in low-self worth for high-functioning, self-doubting Millennial and Gen Z Women. Focusing on unlearning self-criticism, people pleasing and being the "strong one".